A Reminder About Healing: It Begins With Letting Go
Healing
“Give yourself permission to let it hurt but also allow yourself the permission to let it heal.”
A big part of your self-healing journey begins with letting go.
People, relationships, situations, and narratives/ideas/ falsehoods in your mind. Perhaps the victimhood, the fear of the past pain that kept you frozen till this very day.
What are you holding onto, deep within you, what - can you let go of today? what- can you let go of right now?
Surely, something came up in your mind by now. Oftentimes, the hardest resides in the relationships you have.
Especially when your soul already recognized that the relationship no longer serves you— even harder when that person may be someone whom you are related to by blood, a person whom you shared deep intimacy with, a person you bore a child with, a person who was there for you at your lows before, or a person who was monumental in your growth. And this growth of yours can carry on even through their absence if you let go.
They are not necessarily "toxic", "narcissistic", "childish" or any of these labels. When we lapse into labeling others, we unconsciously hold a victim consciousness and lapse into an ego trap of feeling greater, better or higher than others. They are simply not ready for the journey we are in. They are simply at a different stage in their life right now. Perhaps their desires, priorities, and values are different from ours right now. One can only present and respond to the world at the consciousness they are in. Dense energetical residue also resides in people. The best thing one can do is to acknowledge these very fears of letting them go. Contemplate on your deepest values and desires. Reflect on your attachment styles and get clarity on your deeply rooted fears and limiting falsehoods. Slowly begin by choosing you. Hold onto the past memories with grace, compassion and immense gratitude. Because they too, made you, you.
Bow and let them go.
“Be like Rumi, let love take hold of you and change you, at first through its presence, then through its absence.”
Letting Go and Its Grace
One of the biggest lessons in my healing journey over the past 5 years was learning to let go and process grief in life. No, it isn’t the letting go by forgetting/pretending/burying/suppressing/avoiding or the superficial “I have moved on” kind. In fact when we prematurely attempt to let go without listening to our soul, one may notice its fragments coming up eventually as stuck emotions, conscious/unconscious projections, self-sabotages as well as bodily physical ailments.
It is the true practice of letting go.
One that transcends humanly timelines or any others. One that often feels like a paradox. A push and pull between holding on and letting go. One that contains the wisdom of grace and the seed of impermanence. One that has an ability to heal our soul consciousness.
Perhaps the grief and the letting go of someone you love.
We do so by first inviting the very sadness and grief in first for tea and gently making a home out of it. Feeling them deeply in its depth, rawness, and intensity. Dis-armoring ourselves. Taking our time and meeting the part of us that is still holding on. Imagine holding a handful of sand and lightly releasing them. Holding them with gratitude and grace for these memories are part of you now. Holding them with safety and gentleness, as these memories made you, you. Not building walls, forcing them out of your depth or burying them within you soul. And that day will arrive when you finally wake up one morning, and your grip has soften. You feel light and excited about what is to come. You have found grace and wisdom in letting go. You will come to realize the poetic dance of letting go and the beauty of impermanence.
The Gift of Awakenings
Awakenings happen sporadically. The heroine journey of death and rebirth unfolds uniquely for everyone. They are written in our soul contracts and the timings are destined differently from one another. Some may never awake in this lifetime. Some may never acknowledge their needs or attempt to heal in this lifetime too. Sometimes the gift of awakening knocks on one’s door when one least expects it to. Perhaps abrupt, powerless and even terrifyingly lonely. Sometimes, gentle and gradual. Sometimes, both. One may experience more than one awakenings in their lifetime too. However one’s awakening unfolds, death is critical in a heroine journey- a journey that exists regardless of your gender or sexual orientation as we all hold a dual set of masculine and feminine energies within us.⠀
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Death can be described as a loss of power/violation, a point in time when aridity, stagnancy, powerlessness and desperation was consistent in your life. It is only when we arrive and embraced the allowing; the release; the dissolution and what is-that we truly give ourselves the permission to step into our authenticity and sovereignty. ⠀
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One who holds the ability to nurture, care and love themselves before others. ⠀
⠀One who realizes that we are already whole. ⠀
And that we do not need to wait for someone else to nurture, care, validate, or save us.⠀⠀
One who rids the victim mindset in our conditionings, limiting beliefs and firmly honors being the parent for ourselves. ⠀
One who re-discovers and embodies the necessary shakti within.⠀
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The process of transformation begins by stepping into your truth and aligning to your best self. So that we can best harness our journey and wisdom as a gift; and hold our light as a beacon to others.⠀
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So this is it, the heroine journey in its 4 stages:⠀
-Crisis (loss of power/violation)⠀
-Trauma (coming to grip with falsehoods and conditionings)⠀
- Transformation (discovering the necessary shakti within)⠀
- Gift (empowerment, freedom, illumination and belonging)⠀
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The heroine journey speaks deeply to my soul and is weaved intricately in all of Arawme.
Where do you think you are in in your healing journey?
Healing takes deep awareness, radical self-love, resilience and courage. It means choosing you, over anyone else, even the wrong ones.
It begins with letting go.
Only when one empties out the wrong energetic residue will one free up space for the right ones, right opportunities, synchronicities and magnetism in our life.
Most of all, know that healing doesn’t happen overnight, nor linearly too. Know that every triggers are just wounds waiting to surface, an opportunity to invite light and compassion in. You can always begin too. Know that even if you fail or fall short of your expectations today, you can always begin again tomorrow. With focus, tenacity, grace, self-love and so much self-compassion.
May your highest self and courage continue to guide you.
Sat Nam,
Sylvia
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I am Sylvia— the founder, writer, intuitive healer, and human design reader of Arawme. “Arawme” is basically, a raw me put together.
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